Presentation Skills and Public Speaking for Introverts
Often, when I’m leading a presentation skills workshop, or coaching an individual, I often get a caveat or pushback before we start:
“I’m not an actor; I’m not going to get all loud when I have to do this.”
“I’m an introvert. You can’t expect me to suddenly get excited about this.”
“I’m more quiet. I’m not comfortable getting up in front of people and making everyone pay attention to me. I’m just not like that.”
To which I say: Agreed!
One of the worst ways to teach someone who doesn’t want to be loud and extroverted is to tell them to be loud and extroverted. I recall an author telling me about media coaching he was given before a book tour. The coach yelled directions at him: “Stand up straighter! Now look over here! Speak louder! Stop saying ‘um’!”
I’m happy to say I do not work that way. I meet you where you are. And I draw on your natural strengths, and the things you love to do, to support you in being more effective at the front of the room.
Not all great speakers are loud extroverts. It’s just that those are the ones that society pays the most attention to and rewards with money and fame. Oprah Winfrey, Todrick Hall, or JoJo - I’ll happily watch any of them. (Eh, maybe not JoJo. I’m not 12.) But I’ll also watch Barack Obama, John Mulaney, and Albus Dumbledore.
There’s a misconception that all introverts are “shy,” “not talkative,” or “not social.”
Not true.
An introvert derives energy from being alone and thinking or processing.
An extrovert draws energy from being around and engaging with other people.
Neither description - nor label - determines if one is a strong, effective public speaker. Some of the worst presenters I worked with were major extroverts who were loud and gregarious - but never thought about the audience. I would describe these folks as “obnoxious.”
John Mulaney* is very controlled, as is Albus Dumbledore. Barack Obama is commanding, even though he is not overly gregarious. One of my clients described Obama as having a “statesman-like presence.”
So if you struggle with running the meeting, presenting in front of the C-level, or just presentations in general, hit me up to discuss a workshop.
Presentations should feel easi(er), and be enjoyable - not a source of stress. And yes, even the most chill among us can do it in a way that feels comfortable.
*ps - John Mulaney is hilarious AF. I highly recommend any of his Netflix stand-up specials.
About The Author
Hi! I’m Marianna. I make public speaking and presentation skills easier for my clients. I help with everything from preparation to managing anxiety and nerves to speaking with strength and confidence. In addition to Presentation Skills workshops, I offer executive coaching and Keynote speeches. To learn more, Get in touch.
